The search for the ever lasting is a sail that is short lived and regretted by most. Entering a relationship with the belief that forever exists creates a fictional beginning in a reality that strives on established truth. There are many distractions interruptions and disturbances that decrease the possibility of the solidarity of love between two willing participants.
Each love affair experienced that you survive adds to your character and increases your capacity to love again.
Surviving is another story for another time.